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In supporting Joanne, her friends didn’t know whether she wanted to talk about cancer every time they were together – was it rude and insensitive not to?
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nicotinell sugetabletter 2 mg I think this is where a Community Circle could really help. If Joanne had known about and wanted a Community Circle, there could have been a safe place to have these conversations. We could have found a facilitator for her, and together, Joanne and the facilitator could have thought about who Joanne wanted to invite to her Circle. Every Community Circle has a clear purpose, and perhaps Joanne’s would have simply have been to support her through her cancer experience. At the first meeting there could have been a conversation about what is working and not working now for Joanne, and her friends could also say what was working and not working from their perspective. I imagine that this is where they might have said that they did not really know how to support Joanne. Perhaps that could have led to a conversation where Joanne was supported to say what she needed, what good support looked like for her. The facilitator would have then gently moved it to actions. Perhaps Joanne would have said,
- Please only talk about my cancer if I bring it up first
- Don’t stop texting me – about everyday life – the stuff we would have texted about before my diagnosis. It feels good to be in touch that way
- Never send me flowers – I appreciate the sentiment but it just makes me feel like people see me as very sick
- I’d love you to join me when I am walking Chappie my dog – anytime at the weekend, just text me if you are free
- It really helps to have someone with me for Chemo sessions
- Perhaps one of the actions would be a rota for Chemo appointments
It is hard to have these conversations – for the person, and for friends and family. Community Circles can be a safe place to do this, to help us all have the conversations, even when we struggle with the language, and worry about getting it right.
So I would like to suggest another card to Emily McDowell’s excellent collection:
“I would love to be part of your Community Circle – please just ask.”